Dear Granddaddy, I donâ€™tâ€™ like it that my sonâ€™s basketball coach made my son run a lap for not paying attention in practice.
Mary G-upset mom
Mary, I wasnâ€™t there, so I donâ€™t know all the circumstances. But one thing that I do know is that in many cases the discipline, including being forced to pay attention, which playing sports teach is usually a good thing a young student-athlete. Now hold on a minute while I explain what I mean.
Many kids love playing sports. I know I sure did when I was still a kid. As a matter of fact, I think I now miss playing sports. It was so much fun, regardless of how much we had to run. Also, I loved coaching sports for all those years that I did, too!
Sports are a great vehicle to teach leadership skills and self-discipline. And believe it or not, many kids, whether they know it or not, play sports because theyâ€™re difficult and it challenges them to step up their game. And who doesnâ€™tâ€™ love it when theyâ€™re stepping up their game? We all love it, right, Mary?
I played and coached for many years, so I understand this dynamic that exists between kids and sports.
However, like you, I am now on the other side of the fence-sitting in the stands as a parent. And now this old player and coach recognize that itâ€™s a different ball game now that Iâ€™m a parent instead of a player or coach. And like you Mary, I want to protect my children. But, as a former player and coach, I know I need to stay out of it and let my kids take a few lumps, and maybe even run a few extra laps so they can learn how to be more self-disciplined, independent, tough, and step up their game.
Mary, your son is going to be fine. Running occasional laps will help him pay attention and help him get in better shape so he can play better and protect himself from injuries. Okay? So now, letâ€™s go play some ball!
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