GRANDADDY'S SECRETS: Parents, keep going! You're doing just fine!

Published on Monday, 2 October 2017 21:40
Written by Daniel Blanchard

Life would be awesome if it was filled with people who only cheered on us and supported us and our efforts. Unfortunately, though, life isn’t always so kind. Sadly, there are just as many, and maybe even more, hecklers and critics as there are cheerleaders out there when it comes to appraising our parenting skills. Parenting can be tough.

Today’s social media effects our parenting prowess. It influences the way people see us, as well as how we see them. Studies have shown that Facebook has increased a thing called, ‘social comparison.’ This is not always a good thing since social comparison sometimes increases our apprehension about ourselves and may lead to feelings that our lives are lacking something. On Facebook, it looks like most people out there are having more fun than we are. However, the truth is that we don’t get to see the whole picture of their lives on Facebook. We only see the pictures and posts that they want us to see… And guess which ones they want us to see? Not the bad ones…

It’s natural for us parents to have some self-doubts, but unfortunately social comparison can bring this to the next level and sometimes makes us feel like we’re failing miserably. But I’m going to tell you right here, right now, that you are not failing miserably. It’s only human to wonder sometimes if we’re good enough and if our parenting is good enough. Let’s not go overboard with this self-doubt and self-criticism, okay? Let’s stop comparing ourselves to others and let’s stop worrying about what we don’t have or don’t know. Instead, let’s begin to rejoice over what we do have and what we do know. And what we do know is that kids are resilient when they know they are loved. And we love them!

Now as my Granddaddy always said, “Go learn, lead and lay the way to a better world for all of us.” Parents, keep going. You’re doing just fine. And once again parents, thanks in advance for all that you do, and all that you will do…

Daniel Blanchard is a New Britain schoolteacher who is also an award-winning author and speaker. Learn more about Dan at:

Posted in The Bristol Press, Column on Monday, 2 October 2017 21:40. Updated: Monday, 2 October 2017 21:42.